Mar
22
2011
0

Seven Deadly Sins of Youth Ministry: On Wrath

Ira by Hieronymus BoschThis Lenten season has me thinking about the ways in which the attitudes long recognized as the seven capital vices can poison and sabotage our ministries.  We’re looking at each of the vices in a series we’re calling The Seven Deadly Sins of Youth Ministry.  By way of review, the traditional list of seven capital vices includes:

Today I’d like to consider the vice of ira known in English as wrath, rage or anger.
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Mar
09
2011
2

No Knowing Where We May Be Swept Off To

No Knowing Where We May Be Swept Off To

The Road goes ever on and on
Down from the door where it began,
Now far ahead the Road has gone,
And I must follow if I can,
Pursuing it with eager feet,
Until it joins some larger way
Where many paths and errands meet.
And whither then? I cannot say

‘That sounds like a bit of old Bilbo’s rhyming, said Pippin. ‘Or is it one of your imitations? It does not sound altogether encouraging.’

‘I don’t know,’ said Frodo. ‘It came to me then, as if I was making it up, but I may have heard it long ago.  Certainly it reminds me very much of Bilbo in the last years before he went away.  He often used to say there was only one Road; that it was like a great river: its springs were at every doorstep, and every path was its tributary. “It’s a dangerous business, Frodo, going out your door,” he used to say. “You step into the Road, and if you don’t keep your feet, there is know knowing where you might be swept off to.”‘ (From J.R.R. Tolkien’s Lord of the Rings, Book One, Chapter 3)

Perhaps my favorite quote of my favorite book of all time (as long as like Tolkien, you view the Lord of the Rings as a single book).  This quote unlike any other captures the mystery of adventure and the thrill of travel.

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Feb
23
2011
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Good News for the Bad Years

The Prophet JoelYesterday I wrote about some of the best years of my life.  But reminiscing about the good years doesn’t quite make up for the fact that 2010-2011 has been one of the hardest years of my life so far.

Don’t get me wrong. My family is blessed in more ways than I can fully count. But for a number of reasons the past 12 months have been some of the most difficult I’ve faced.

I shared just a little over a year ago that due to the ongoing downturn in the economy and its effects on giving at our church, I and the rest of the paid associate staff at Middletown Church of the Nazarene would be facing a 50% reduction in salary. I said at the time that we were hoping it would be a short term adjustment. “Who knows,” I wrote last year “where our church will be financially a year from now?”

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Feb
22
2011
2

The Best Years of My Life

I shared yesterday about our youth group’s favorite travel game, The Top Three.  On our ski trip this weekend, one of my favorite questions came as a surprise: What were your top three favorite years? Like most of the best questions in the top three game, it’s deceptively simple, but calls for some real thought and provides a unique insight into the lives of the players.  After some careful consideration, here are my top three as well as some reflections on what makes the good years so good.

Noel and I1991

1991 was the best of my high school years, with 1990 a close second.  In October 1990 I finally got up the nerve to ask Michelle to go out with me.  By 1991 we were “going steady.”  The summer of 1991 was my turn to attend Nazarene Youth Congress in Orlando, FL. By the time my senior semester started (fall 1991) I’d found my social niche and loved school. I was on my high school speech team and made the all-conference team in foreign extemp.  In December of 1991 I graduated from high school a semester early and prepared to head off to Olivet Nazarene University in January 1992.

Update: And though I didn’t know it then, that was also the year @Bekkalynn was born.

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Feb
17
2011
0

Seven Strategies for Dealing with Cumulative Stress

Yep, that's me.It’s almost time to start getting wet again…

Ever since I took a group of teens to a free I Tried SCUBA class at a local YMCA, I wanted to become a certified SCUBA diver.  Thanks to my brother and his SCUBA teaching cronies, last fall that goal was realized.  My oldest son Brenden and I were certified last November.

Now that the temperatures in Middletown have hit 60 degrees, at least for a day or two, I’m wondering when I can get in the water next.  (It’s warmer outside now that it was on our certification dives, though I’m sure the water has cooled off a bit.)

One of the primary risks in SCUBA is decompression sickness, commonly known as the bends.  As a chemistry teacher (or anyone who has ever opened a bottle of pop) can tell you, more gasses dissolve into a liquid when under pressure.  That’s true of carbon dioxide in your bottle of Coca Cola, and it’s true of nitrogen in your blood stream.  The increased pressure caused by breathing compressed air at depth causes excess nitrogen to dissolve into solution in your blood.

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Jan
26
2009
1

Facing Criticism Without Becoming a Martyr

I was back in my old stomping grounds in Illinois last weekend. And it was nice to be back.  I spent my first seven years of ministry in Decatur, in the very heart of Illinois.  Prior to that I spent three years at Olivet Nazarene University in Bourbonnais earning on my undergraduate degree in ministry.  Ten years creates some strong connections with a state.

Chicago's 50,000 Watt Blowtorch

Chicago's 50,000 Watt Blowtorch

During those years I fell in love with talk radio. It was before the age of iPods and podcasts.  It was before I discovered the beauty of audiobooks.  Talk radio was the easiest way to keep my mind engaged when doing otherwise mindless tasks.  Yes, I fell in love with talk radio.

I’m not talking about the bile and vitriol of nationally syndicated programs like Limbaugh, Colmes and Schlessinger (at least those were the big names back then).  I’m talking about local talk. Don Wade and Roma in the morning, Roe Conn and Garry Meier during the afternoon drive, and especially Jay Marvin‘s late nights – the local lineup back in the day for Chicago’s “50,000 watt blowtorch” WLS 890 AM.

Illinois Governor Rod Blagojevich

Illinois Governor Rod Blagojevich

During my recent return to the state I left seven years ago, I was thrilled to discover that WLS hasn’t gone the way of so much talk radio, trading local talk for the glitz, glamor and low production costs of syndicated blather.  (Or at least, not completely.  I did run into a rebroadcast of Sean Hannity’s show around 7 pm) and quickly fired the iPod back up.)  Roe Conn wasn’t on air that Friday but his spot was being filled by another local voice and even better, they then rebroadcast that morning’s 40-some minute Don Wade and Roma interview with embattled Illinois Governor Rod Blagojevich whose impeachment trial on corruption charges is slated to begin today.

Now, while I myself may be a bit of a political junkie, and I am known to twitter about politics from time to time, I don’t intend this to be a political blog.  I normally wouldn’t write about this interview here.  But one part of the interview in particular caught my attention.

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Nov
18
2008
1

Fighting the “It’s Not My Job” Mentality

The answer is 42.  But unlike Douglas Adams, I know not only the elusive answer, but also the question.  Are you ready?  The question is, “How many times, while laying on cold, wet concrete under an old, rusty bus blooding one’s knuckles on the cold, hard frame, will a youth pastor think to himself ‘This isn’t in my job description‘?”  And it didn’t even take me 10 million years to come up with the question.  Just three hours one slightly snowy November morning, lying underneath the aforementioned bus.

Why, you might wonder, was I under said bus?  I was attempting to remove the seats from the bus, so that one of our parishioners who owns a metal fabrication business can replace the rotting floor.  The bolts which held down the seats pass through the floor.  And the nuts which had to be held stationary while the bolts were loosened, were accessible only to someone lying underneath the bus — a job which unfortunately fell to me because my considerable girth is slightly less considerable than the guy helping me accomplish the task.  (In other words, while wide, I am not too wide to get under the bus.  But J-Dubs is.)

Every time my knuckles were scraped along the “rust proofing” (note the quotation marks, employed to denote just how rust-proof that rust proofing was) I found myself muttering under my breath something to the effect of  “They don’t pay me enough for this.”  Or “There’s a reason I didn’t go to school to become an automechanic.”  Or more often than not “This isn’t in my job description.”  It really isn’t.  If you don’t believe me, you can see for yourself here.)

I find myself thinking that a lot as a youth pastor.  Anyone who’s been in this position can tell you, there are a lot of things that I do that don’t fall into the neat categories laid out in my job description.  From cleaning the youth center, to fixing networking problems, to hanging out with K-Reb.  Oh wait, that last part is in my job description.  I just wish it wasn’t.  (Just kidding Caleb!)

There’s nothing that can poison one’s job satisfaction more than dwelling in the land of “It’s not my job.”  And while we cannot ever fully control the things we are asked or expected to do, we can control the way in which we respond to those things and the attitude we have while doing them.  I suppose it’s also true that we can control what we are expected to do by simply delegating all those things that we’d prefer to pass off to someone else (like, say, crawling around on cold, wet cement, underneath an old, rusty bus).

And while from a managerial viewpoint delegating would probably be the smart thing to do, I’m not sure that from a ministerial viewpoint that is always the case.  I’ll tell you why after the jump. (more…)

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